It’s often bi-directional as well. Sadly I know someone in a battered marriage situation and a big part of why they won’t leave is bc they don’t want the court (they have a kid) to find out they were also getting physical with their spouse. Codependency is a bitch
There’s reactive abuse. Where in response to abuse you defend yourself with abusive behaviour. Then the original abuser plays the victim and gas lights you.
It’s often bi-directional as well. Sadly I know someone in a battered marriage situation and a big part of why they won’t leave is bc they don’t want the court (they have a kid) to find out they were also getting physical with their spouse. Codependency is a bitch
100%
There’s reactive abuse. Where in response to abuse you defend yourself with abusive behaviour. Then the original abuser plays the victim and gas lights you.
My marriage was like this. It was hell.